This is a part of our Experience, Strength, and Hope series. Read more D.A. experiences. The shares below are those of the fellows that submitted them and don’t necessarily represent the 12 steps or Debtors Anonymous.
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How did you know you had a problem?
I was using debt to meet my basic needs. I had been credit card dependent for over 10 years … using one credit card to pay another. Only being able to meet the basic minimum payments, until they became too great also. Being very vague and hopeless about my money. I had many of the D.A. signs that are often read at meetings.
How did you find D.A.?
It was a godsend; there was a meeting at the same place another 12 Step meeting was being held … and against my better judgment … I attended it. I continue to attend meetings toD.A.y after 13 years! Debtors anonymous is a priceless gift.
What have you learned in D.A.?
To live within my means. To be grateful. Not to compare my insides to everyone else’s outsides. That it is an abunD.A.nt and prosperous universe. God will provide. To record my numbers D.A.ily. To work the steps to the best of my ability. When I don’t use credit or other people’s money, it gives inspiration for creativity to get my needs and some of my wants met.
What suggestions do you have for newcomers in their first 90 days?
Go to the debtorsanonyomous.org website. Click on GETTING STARTED. Check out the resources there. Review the “15 Questions” and “12 Signs of Compulsive Debting.” Read about the “12 Tools” of the program. Check out “Frequently Asked Questions.”
SURRENDER! Attend meetings. Read the D.A. literature. Stop incurring debt toD.A.y. Record or write down your numbers . All of your expenses and all of your income. Get phone numbers from other solvent members and call them. Read more D.A. literature and try to identify [yourself] in [the stories]. Know that you are not alone. Read, use, and work the steps with a sponsor. Attend D.A. telephone meetings. Attend D.A. Step study telephone meetings. Ask for help. Your Higher Power loves you immensely.
—Truly blessed & grateful