This is a part of our Experience, Strength, and Hope series. Read more D.A. experiences. The shares below are those of the fellows that submitted them and don’t necessarily represent the 12 steps or Debtors Anonymous.
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How did you know you had a problem?
In the half dozen years before I came to D.A. I had tried some desperate measures to solve my money problem. I had inflicted a multi-level marketing scheme on my family and friends, bought an historic home in the Midwest thinking I would move there and be able to live comfortably (I was born and raised in liberal Seattle and the house was a money pit), and finally, I had opened a business I had no business trying to own and run. I worried about money, spent money with no budget, and by the end, I was practically psychotic.
How did you find D.A.?
I was familiar with 12 steps programs already and found a meeting online.
What have you learned in D.A.?
It’s not about the money. Safety, security and serenity are available to me no matter how much money or debt I have. To quote several sources, the sun will still rise, and I will always have that first cup of coffee in the morning.
What suggestions do you have for newcomers in their first 90 days?
The support of other members is practically the whole point. Talk to people, call people and obviously get and call a sponsor. Things can get better fast. There are a lot of ways D.A. suggests doing things that you have never thought of. A spending plan is probably not what you think. You will be surprised at what your Pressure Relief Group will suggest. Yes, it is hard to ask people to help you and hard to lay your personal info out for them to see, AND it can be life changing. Just do it.
—Jill C., Seattle